The Gifts of Solitude: A Seven-Week Faerie Ritual



The Gifts of Solitude:
A Seven-Week Faerie Ritual

Possess the Freedom and Joy of Solitude

Avoid the Trap of Isolation

Begins Wednesday September 7, 2022.
Enroll by Wednesday August 31.

We will do Faerie shamanism rituals that help you
* Move past anything that keeps you from the solitude you want,
whether the block is inside you or external.
* Embrace solitude and its many gifts.

Solitude and isolation are not synonymous.

In solitude, I experience deep satisfaction in simple activities and notice the small wonders of everyday life. I find joy and freedom. My trust in myself and in my wisdom is renewed. I wander on shamanic journeys led by the Fey folk. Paradoxically, solitude fosters my connection to all of Gaia’s children. The list of gifts from solitude has many more items.

I experience isolation as lonely, painful, and confining. I feel disconnected, not only from people but also from my ancestors, the cosmos, and myself. My self-esteem lowers as does my trust in myself. My awareness of Fairy Gods being right by my side diminishes. I have less willingness to go on a shamanic journey, even though I know it will improve everything radically. That only begins the litany of isolation’s harmfulness. For one thing, isolation can negatively impact your health.

Isolation can be forced on you. For example, your community, family, or significant other rejects you, withdrawing what’s required to survive physically, emotionally, or spiritually, Even when physically present, someone can reject you.

The Gifts of Solitude Seven-Week Ritual includes Faerie Shamanism ceremonies that heal wounds caused by forced isolation. This enables you to enter more fully into healthy, satisfying times of solitude.

We’ll examine how self-imposed isolation can be beneficial for healing from trauma and how to use isolation for what it’s worth.

We will do ritual to free you if you are, to any degree, stuck in self-imposed isolation when it no longer serves its purpose but instead hinders you.

Society currently portrays getting stuck in isolation not as a response to trauma but as a healthy social norm. In other words, often isolation is not being named as such but incorrectly portrayed as a perfectly normal, healthy ongoing lifestyle.

In the process, impulses to isolate can be mistaken as introvert traits, even by introverts.

Oppressors falsify the nature of trauma-induced isolation to hide it, so people won’t overcome it. Western culture is greatly one of disconnection from nature, community, and self. Thus, much that is alienating seems a given, making isolation in response to trauma all the harder to spot. Oppressors foster alienation because connectivity is power.

The Gifts of Solitude exposes the details of these misrepresentations and alienating “givens,” how they could easily have leaked deeply into your subconscious—whether you’re an introvert or not–and the full extent of their damaging impact.

We will do Faerie ritual to uncover and heal ourselves from these misrepresentations and to strengthen and free ourselves to live however we choose. Celtic and Strega magic have traditionally been used to overcome oppression. The magic of both Strega witchcraft and Celtic shamanism is Fey, in the ancient European witchcraft tradition my mother taught me from birth.

We’ll also discuss how to spot the differences between solitude, isolation as a useful response to trauma, and being stuck in isolation.

Many of us have been pressured to go without time for ourselves. For example, maybe you were shamed and called selfish when you wanted time alone.

During our ritual, you’ll have the chance to see if you’ve been pressured to deprive yourself of solitude.

We’ll look at how you might have internalized this pressure and people-please by forsaking much-needed alone time, during which you would get to, for example, rest, emotionally recover from caretaking of others, and think about your own needs.

We will perform magic that helps you be unaffected by pressure to deny yourself solitude, whether the pressure comes from someone else or is self-inflicted.

We’ll look at the lie that having boundaries negates our love for someone. We will do ritual to heal the wounds that lie has caused.

We’ll see how boundaries help maintain our love and will do ritual that empowers us to follow through on that idea.

Honoring your desire for time to yourself can help make romance, friendship, and an active social life healthy and fulfilling. Otherwise, relationships might be terribly disorienting—a loss of self and one’s core goals. Or relationships feel lonely. Loneliness despite being in a relationship is a horrible experience.

The Gifts of Solitude is a chance to join together ritually in the paradox of community honoring our needs for solitude.

Humans can be wonderfully tribal. We’ll join in sacred ritual circle to joyfully embrace and empower our solitude. Ecstasy!

Experiencing this pleasure strengthens the resolve to create happy relationships that respect solitude.

Enrollment is limited to 16 participants to allow old-style oral tradition, including magic that works powerfully and safely only in a small group. This magic helps immense headway happens quickly. A small group also allows participants to receive individualized attention, should they want that support. This tailors a lesson so you receive the exact help you need.

Instead of this event being a class, we get right down to what’s needed for a deeply transformative ceremony. I teach how to do the rituals. You receive other pivotal information because I go over the ins and outs of solitude, isolation, and related issues. There are opportunities to ask questions. You are free to discuss your situation, so I can create rituals that meet your individual needs.

You also can phone me between meetings if you have concerns that might take too long to address during meetings or that you prefer to discuss privately.

You receive direct spiritual transmissions in every meeting. In other words, you receive blessings that deepen the healing, empowerment, and pleasure you find in the rituals.

You also receive digital talismanic art: an amulet to empower your solitude and move through blocks to it. I painted a piece that I imbued with magic. You receive a digital version of it with instructions on how to use it as an amulet.

Suited to all levels of experience: accessible to newbies, yet adepts experience depth.

This event can be applied as one of the two qualifying electives required for advanced shamanic training.

We meet seven consecutive Wednesdays, 3:00 to 4:00 pacific time, starting Sept 7.

Reserve Wednesday October 26, same time, for a makeup session in case I’m unavailable for one of the planned dates.

The class meets by phone. To attend, simply call the event’s phone number, which you receive after enrollment.

Full cost for seven weeks of ritual, direct spiritual transmissions, one-on-one private support, and an original talismanic piece of art is $400. Your carrier might charge you for phone calls into the meetings.

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Francesca De Grandis 2021

Francesca De Grandis is the best-selling author of “Be a Goddess!” Her work couples Goddess mysticism with practical magic and a down-to-earth philosophy. Raised in a traditional Strega family tradition that has Celtic shamanism in its heritage—the family is originally from France—she practices an ancient European witchcraft that is a form of Fairy shamanism. She has worked professionally as a community shaman for four decades.

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Am Wondering Why I Make Amulets to Sell

Am Wondering
Why I Make Amulets to Sell

Making Amulets Is a Spiritual Practice

This post has photos of amulet necklaces I’ve made.

Please note: the words amulet, charm, and talisman have been synonyms for centuries. I use the words that way because it makes sense to me. Nowadays, some folks use the words differently. Long live diversity!

I’ve been wondering why I feel compelled to make amulets to sell.

Crafting them cuts substantial time from my day that I could use to make a lot more money than I make from amulets.

Much as I love—love!—the magical art of creating them, they are labor-intensive.

Each is a work of art so completely different from the others. This means planning a new design for each amulet, which might also require working out new technical challenges. Also, to bless an amulet, I am guided to create a new blessing spell. No point in making charms unless I do the best possible job I can. Part of that for me means exclusively making one-of-a-kind, so that each is the exact amulet to suit one special person. Too much is mass produced today. And I love—love!–the process of making a special, unique charm. So it being labor-intensive is not a problem in itself.

However, very few people that I know would buy one if I charged for all the time it takes to make one, bless it, and find the special components I search for endlessly. So why am I compelled to make them to sell?

Joan Didion said, “I don’t know what I think until I write it down.” So here goes:

I Craft Amulets in Meditation

Almost as soon as I said that I didn’t have time to make more amulets to sell, I started making one.

Then I remembered that making amulets is a spiritual discipline for me and part of my ongoing shamanic journey. Crafting a charm is a meditation that deepens my connection with the Divine and empowers me. So I found the time.

I Craft Amulets in Meditation aka Ritual

For me, making talismans is a spiritual practice. I’m not saying
everyone has to do it that way, or that amulets are effective only if made in a ritual process. We each have to find our own appropriate way, and far be it from me to insist that the most powerful methods for me are right for anyone else.

Crafting Amulets to Serve my Tribe

I work full-time professionally as a shamanic teacher and healer. This means I have wonderful meditative ritual time during the day, e.g., channeling a curriculum or sending someone a long-distance healing.

I find my profession to be a spiritual discipline, part of my ongoing shamanic journey. and an ongoing meditation/ritual that deepens my connection with the Divine and empowers me. So I’m wondering why I still feel compelled to make amulets to sell to people instead of just for myself.

Heh, maybe I just need a little extra money to pay for my addiction to beads.

Or maybe my Gods want me to provide this service for people. My buyers say their purchases created miracles for them. My clients say the same thing about my classes and healings, but not everyone has time for my classes, and some people are particularly drawn to using amulets. Amulets really hum for them.

So perhaps the compulsion I feel to make amulets for my community is instilled in me by my sweet Fairy Gods so that I serve my tribe in this capacity.

And maybe I should find some folks who can and will pay more. That’s something else to ask myself. … No, I like the way it is: I can make talismans for the people dear to me—my students, newsletter subscribers, etc. … and I earn enough to pay for my addiction to beads.

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Moon Mandalas, Amulets, and the Lunar Calendar

Moon Mandalas, Amulets,
and Talismans

Sacred Geometry and the Lunar Calendar

I’m teaching fewer Faerie shamanism classes for a couple of weeks, plus a recent injury keeps me from exercising as much as usual, so time has freed up, and I’ve been in a painting frenzy.

Among the recent paintings are two mandalas that I’ll put in digital Book of Shadow pages for my classes. The art will increase the magic in the pages’ text.

I call the paintings “Moon Mandalas.”

Ancient calendars that are lunar had thirteen months.

In the Druids’ lunar calendar, every month offers a different moon magic.

The Druid lunar calendar is also a tree calendar. Each month, a different tree’s magic comes forward.

These two mandalas were painted during the month of the Mothers’ Moon or the Bright Moon. Willow tree’s magic is especially strong this month.

I’m on a natural high from painting them and from my magical time with my students. Doing rituals with them—my peers and beautiful fellow travelers—in the energy of the Mothers’ Moon, the Bright Moon, and Willow tree magic—helped inspire the paintings.

I painted this month’s full moon. I call the painting “Full Moon Mandala,” and it is at the top of this post.

These mandalas also function as amulets. The words amulets, charms, and talismans have been synonyms for centuries. I use the words that way. Nowadays, some folks use the words differently, and I support you to choose your own way—to each their own.

These mandalas are also amulets. The full moon painting is a talisman—or mandala—for peace, healing, and power. It also is a reflection of your own power, beauty, and wisdom.

If you spend a few gently thoughtful moments with the painting, you might find other magic in it.

Added to a digital Book of Shadow page for one of my fairy shaman classes, it will enchant the page much like an Ogham would. An Ogham is a letter in an ancient alphabet, each letter of which corresponds to a tree held sacred by Druids. Oghams can be used as amulets.

Though filled with the power of this month’s moon and tree, these talismans are powerful any time of year, in the same way that willow magic is lovely all year.

I also painted this month’s eclipse. I call it “Eclipse Moon Mandala.”

It is a talisman—or mandala—for peace, self-acceptance, and being in the moment. It is also an amulet for the following:

These paintings’ sacred geometry includes the old pre-Christian equal-armed cross. I often depict symmetrical four-pointed shapes, or eight, sixteen, or further multiples of four. They speak to my sense of integration, peace, awareness of Divine Love, and remaining centered in one’s truths and goals. Both paintings are amulets for all these attributes.

The flowers could be morning glories, lilies, irises, and/or whatever you perceive them as.

To receive my talismanic art’s blessings, use one of the following methods:

– Meditate on the mandala. You might feel magic touch you within minutes if not seconds.
– Print the picture and put it on your altar.
– Display the painting anywhere in your home.
– If you need to be discreet about your magic, tuck the painting into a drawer, after saying, “May I be blessed.”
– Use the mandala as a screensaver.

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Learn Ogham Divination: A Seven-Week Online Course

Lessons delivered to you by email. No need to attend classes.

Enrollment Deadline is June 8.

The course starts Sunday June 12, 2022 when you receive your first lesson.

This course shows you how to quickly begin doing divination with the Ogham tree alphabet, to improve your life.

Divination is the art of gaining information through messages from the other worlds. Just as Tarot cards, crystal ball, and many other items can be used as tools for divination, so can the Ogham alphabet.

Ogham divination provides empowering information. You gain an advantage, by learning more about what’s going on around you and in you, regarding finances, career, romance, life path, spiritual needs, creativity, and almost anything else. Thus you can make informed decisions and be more successful in all parts of life. You can also choose—and create—your own destiny.

I do divination with Oghams for everything from family issues to shamanic journeys to marketing plans to creative self-expression. Oghams even show me how to find mental clarity and serenity.

The Ogham alphabet is ancient. An early form had twenty letters, each one associated with a specific tree sacred to Druids. This course teaches you how to use the twenty letters for divination, so the twenty trees and Old Gods guide and empower you.

Some folks really want to learn Ogham divination but can’t on their own, with only a wee instruction pamphlet that comes enclosed with an Ogham divination set. Yet struggling through a big complex book, without support, is uninviting and uninspiring.

By contrast, Learn Ogham Divination is a brief course of easy lessons that guide you step-by-step through learning Ogham divination. There’s plenty of support. As you’ll see below, you can even phone me if you have questions.

With this course, the basics are covered! Plus more:

* Instructions on how to use Ogham letters as talismans are included.

* Lessons tend to be simple and streamlined, yet have layers, creating depth and sophistication.

* Concise divinatory meanings for each alphabet letter, along with simple instructions on how to do Ogham divination, are layered to impart a Druid’s way of life.

* This class is a prerequisite for advanced Druid training. Divination is part of the Druidic path.

* Lessons include Fey-touched material never published till now. The original Druidism was based in the Faerie Faith. That ancient Fey Druidry is imparted in the course.

* Many meanings provided for the Oghams are unavailable elsewhere. Though you’ll learn traditional meanings when relevant, a great deal of what you’ll receive is not from books. Instead, I learned it directly from trees, Gods, my past life memories as a Druid, and my channeling.

* When channeling and talking with the Gods, I’m often in Fey realms.  Because of that and other experiences, my original Ogham interpretations and teaching methods are grounded in the Faerie Faith. One of the many benefits that provides you is practical mysticism. The old Fey worldview does not always divide spirit and matter into two separate things. You’ll learn divination that is both mystical and down-to-earth, delivering relevant advice for everything from inner growth to great sex.

* Lessons reveal how the meanings for an Ogham letter serve as a jumping off point for brainstorming and exploration, so a reading you’re doing gives you information relevant to your personal situation.

Learn Ogham Divination has five powerful aspects:

1) A Weekly lesson, delivered by email, for seven weeks. The way I teach, you’ll learn quickly, so you only need to take the seven lessons.

Each lesson is a digital Book of Shadows entry (PDF), ornamented by my full-color, original, shamanic art that intensifies the text’s magic. Much of the artwork was created specifically for this course. The Book of Shadows entries will become cherished, enchantment-filled, lifelong possessions.

2) The Book of Ogham Meanings, which is a companion text for this course. This 5500 word PDF provides meanings for each Ogham, and is embellished with my full color, original sacred art.

So you quickly can access Ogham interpretations, I put them all in this one booklet, instead of spread throughout the weekly lessons.

3) A complete Ogham set to use for divination and talismans. This full-color digital painting has the twenty Ogham letters, set up so you can print them all on one sheet, then cut along its clearly marked cutting lines to create a twenty-piece Ogham divination set. I spent months painting magical art, to create a set specifically for this course’s participants, so they 1) have a set I hope they will treasure and 2) can start doing Ogham divination right away,  instead of having to find a set.

This is a mini-sized deck, easily kept nearby to use whenever you want and, since it fits on one page, you only need to print one sheet for a full deck.

Here’s a photo of the divination set after I printed it and cut up the paper, then arranged the cards to show most of my favorites. As the course progresses, I hope you’ll have your favorite cards:

The set’s artwork tickles me. It makes me happy, partially out of pride for my work, but also because looking at it just pleases my eyes and my spirit. In fact, I display the page, uncut, as a piece of art, in my home.

Detail and clarity of all the course’s artwork is excellent. Images in this post are blurred, by necessity, their lesser quality allowing this post to load quickly.

4) I’m available by phone, for up to 45 minutes. If you have questions about the material, need support because your commitment to doing the lessons falters, want to further explore a particularly tantalizing part of the curriculum, or have other concerns, feel free to phone.

You can divide the 45 minutes into two or three conversations. Conversations must occur during the span of the course or within a month after.

5) Bonus feature: a digital file of a second Ogham divination set! If you want to try divination with a completely different style of artwork, here it is. I myself like trying different divination sets. Your bonus mini-sized deck:

A personal story about the second set: to practice painting with watercolors, which I hadn’t done for a while, I created this set in only a day. So the set is nowhere near as polished as the one I spent months on. I’d planned to use the watercolor Oghams exclusively for my private divination, knowing that quickly-rendered art can have its own type of power, joy, and beauty. Then, to my surprise, the watercolor touched several people’s hearts. I realized many folks who are drawn to the highly personal energy I put into all my work, including the set I spent months on, might find using the second set as dynamic as I do. I hadn’t planned on offering the watercolor to anyone, so turning it into a shareable item took digital maneuvering. The painting was so large that I had to scan it in pieces, then digitally resize them to all fit in one graphic, then painstakingly reassemble the pieces—it took time to digitally line up pieces precisely with each other—then even more painstakingly digitally paint their edges so they blended back together. It was worth it because I love sharing my sacred art. I hope you enjoy it.

The course starts Sunday June 12, 2022 when you receive your first lesson.

If an unexpected event makes me unable to send one week’s planned material, I’ll extend the course an extra week.

Full cost for lessons, The Book of Ogham Meanings, two decks, and one-on-one support is $400. Scroll down to pay securely with PayPal:





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No experience needed. But even advanced practitioners should find worthy material. If you need more information, or want to discuss scholarship, trade, or a special payment plan, phone me. My number is below the next paragraph. No refunds. This online course is not a transcription of an oral tradition class (which I teach by phone). My online courses are special unto themselves—magic tailored to be spectacularly useful, exciting, effective, and safe when learned online.

Decades of doing divination professionally and teaching others how to divine taught me a lot about the best ways to develop this course. My family tradition also honed my teaching approach: I was raised to be a creator of new, otherworldly material.

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Prosper in All Ways

Prosper in All Ways

Prosper in All Ways

I’ll cast a spell for you.

I’ll cast a spell for you.

The spell will be money magic, good luck mojo, a protection spell, and lots more.

The spell will be money magic, good luck mojo, a protection spell, and lots more.

This Three-Month Ritual for You to Prosper Begins March 7, 2022

Enroll by March 2.

You don’t need to attend an event, meditate, or do anything else. Just go about your business, while I do the work for you.

Most people immediately feel substantial results that increase over the three months, continue to build afterwards, and are long-lasting.

Money money money money money
Joy Joy joy
Self-expression self-expression self-expression
The chance to be of service to be of service to serve
Love love love

There are many ways to prosper. There’s an abundance of abundances.

Abundance of love
Abundance of satisfactions
Abundance of goals met
Abundance of physical health
And all other possible bounty

To help you prosper in all ways, I’ll even cast a three-month-long love spell for the exact love(s) you need—romance, self-love, the Fairy Gods’ loving generosity, or another love altogether. The energy of the spell adapts to what you most desire.

For three months, five days a week, I’ll perform your ceremony. Five days a week for three months is a lot of magic done on your behalf. This is big.

Are things going well for you? You still deserve magical support.

You deserve the best life.

You deserve all possible goodness.

Maybe you’re optimistically and wholeheartedly creating bounty. And you have plenty of plenty.

You still don’t need to go it alone.

You deserve magic that supports your efforts—adds good luck to your day, strengthens your resolve, adds some money magic so you needn’t work as hard, or gives you whatever else you need, inside and out, to create abundance and all the types of abundance you truly desire, whether financial, spiritual, creative, or …

Heck, nowadays, some folks are doing everything possible to improve finances, despite feelings of hopelessness. The transmission can help boost your morale, for an abundance of emotional happiness.

I have your back.

The ritual consists of direct spiritual transmissions, also called spiritual transmissions or, in the case of my work, blessing ceremonies.

Here’s an explanation of my transmissions:

I was born generating a beneficial field of energy. It adapts to your needs, e.g., financial well-being, soul-healing, great physical health, joy for your wild heart, safety on the mundane and etheric planes, the strength to get back up when life’s knocked you down, personal growth, peace …

So my transmissions can be protection spells, money magic, love spells, and more, all rolled into one.

It’s an abundance of abundances. The transmissions (again, sometimes it helps to think of them as blessing ceremonies) do not focus on one benefit only but bless you as a whole being. They also bless your life overall, adding luck to your day.

For clarity’s sake: someone else’s direct spiritual transmission is not necessarily carried out the same way mine is or might have different goals than mine.

My spiritual transmissions are congruent with the ancient Faery Faith and the precious, loving Faerie secrets.

When I do a direct spiritual transmission, the Great Mother Goddess is like the wind at my back. The Old Fey Gods believe material happiness is holy beauty. The Magna Mater, Great Mother Goddess, is known worldwide as the Fairy Queen in various traditions. She loves you, holds you sacred, and wants you to enjoy a bountiful life to the max. She will bless my work for you by contributing Her power to my magic.

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Since the transmission adapts to your needs, it not only sends more abundance your way, it also helps provide what you need, inside and out, to work toward abundance.

This blessing ceremony can even act as a healing for you if you need it. Examples:
* You think you don’t deserve abundance so can’t get yourself to work hard toward it.
* Or you despair of ever getting ahead financially, so can’t even imagine a better life.

My spiritual transmissions help shift your energy so you can be more proactive about financial well-being, inner nourishment, and an ideal life.

Receiving these transmissions is a way to say yes to the Goddess’ love showering bounty upon you and opening doors to all good things. Click the subscribe button:





Francesca De Grandis is the bestselling author of Be a Goddess! Her work couples Goddess mysticism with practical magic and a down-to-earth philosophy. Raised in a traditional Strega family tradition that has Celtic shamanism in its heritage, she practices an ancient European witchcraft that is a form of multicultural Fairy shamanism.

Magic is not a substitute for psychiatric counseling, medical care, or other therapeutic treatments. Participants are responsible for the consequences of their participation. This shamanic ceremony is extraordinarily effective but may not work for all individuals.

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A Surrender: Diving into the Void

My latest animation, 24 seconds long, no audio.

Please note: At about 11 seconds, movement stops. That is a pause—intentionally—but not the end.

I’m proud of the piece. It represents improvement in my relatively new animation skills. And, as someone who relies on word-crafting more than on visual art to communicate, I was happy that I could represented a truth that is important to me without using words except the piece’s title. In the same vein, to give a substantive message within seconds felt empowering to me as a visual artist.

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Grief Can Lead to Blessings

The Power in Mourning
Releasing the Old Me

This post is a personal account of three somewhat disparate themes that came together experientially for me over the course of decades:
* It is okay—even normal and healthy—to mourn the loss of that which hurts us.
* Looking for a magic bullet is a way to avoid responsibility for oneself.
* The grieving process can draw joy, power, and all other blessings.

I hope sharing my personal journey reveals more aspects of these themes than theoretical exposition might, and that some of the lessons I learned through my experiences are useful to you.

Letting Go of the Old Me

Forty years ago, I started putting the old me to rest. The old me:
* None of my problems are my fault.
* Circumstances dictate my happiness or lack thereof.
* Poor me, nothing I can do about it.
* I expect society or someone to rescue me from life.

The New Me Is Happy

A new me began:
* I admitted that, while I don’t cause every problem that comes my way, I sure the heck cause some of them.
* I admitted I sure the heck can exacerbate problems that are not originally my fault.
* I rose above circumstances to thrive, even though the situations would’ve crushed–if not killed—most people.
*I am proactive, taking command of my life.
* I began daily self-examination that allowed me, among other things, to spot when I was not fully participating in life, co-creating the cosmos, but was instead needlessly centered in inner turmoil (explanation about this is below).

A Magic Bullet Is Part of Death Culture

Expecting someone to save me from life was subconsciously wishing for death. Numbness. Life is inescapable as long as I breathe. Life includes hardship and misery. Life is also beautiful and joyful. Expecting a person or circumstances to be a magic bullet robs me of life’s beauty and joy. The idea of a magic bullet is death culture.

Subtle Self-Sabotage

Recently, I found the old me is still here, in subtle ways I had not spotted:

* I felt that if a certain friend would only love me, would only see how much I love him, would only accept my love, would only see the lengths I go to, to do every last thing he asks of me, then I would feel okay. Ha! (Argh, the hoops I jumped through! Good grief, yes, the old me remained.) If my feelings do not seem subtle to you, I agree. But they were operating in me subconsciously for a while.

* My moods were swinging from a sense of security and contentment to despair and rage when he would disparage my efforts, belittle my expert opinions, or assign negative motives to my positive actions. (His way of doing all this was also subtle, at first. So I didn’t recognize it initially.)

I am grateful that I was taught a life of self-examination.

I am grateful I was taught that self-examination had to include looking for selfishness.

I am grateful I learned that, when I let myself be emotionally bounced around by circumstances or someone’s opinions of me, I am selfish, in that my inner turmoil robs me of time, energy, and focus needed to contribute to community, participate in life, co-create the cosmos.

I am grateful I have tools to change myself. It is a wonderful thing.

Mourning the Old Me

So here I am, letting go of the old me more deeply.

I grieve her passing.

I cry.

It is not enough yet, more tears will spill.

Enough will spill.

My tears will be the pyre from which my Phoenix new self will rise again with new powers, including the power to leave my friend behind, soon.

I don’t want to face the pain of weeping, but it will end.

Avoiding Mourning
by Shedding Tears with the Wrong Person

I want to avoid the pain of mourning and the scariness of self-reliance by crying in my friend’s presence, hoping that my pain will motivate him to change his behavior.

The old me believes that my happiness depends on him changing. Hah!

I see no evidence he would change. Besides, he has a right to be exactly as he is.

My tears with him would be attempted manipulation. My tears would be shed in the expectation that he would take responsibility for my happiness. But only I can step up to the plate to meet my needs.

So, I have to shed tears free of expectations and face my grief over the loss of my old self, my closeness to my friend, and my foolish dream of being rescued from life.

I will cry alone and with those who respect my grief. Good for me!

Avoiding Mourning by Living in Anger

Though I will move away from my friend, the old me would prefer to live in anger at him, at me, and at the world instead of facing loss and grief and striking out on my own. Anger feels safe because it provides me a false sense of control. Grief feels wild, untenable—my Dictionary app defines untenable as “not fit to be occupied, as an apartment, house, etc.”

My grief is without walls, tumbling me in to a void, the impossibility of false ideals coming true, the futility of old selves remaining.

But I do not have to live in anger, and I need not live in grief, with its emptiness of uncertainty.

I have to enter, visit, and move through grief—enter, visit, and move through its emptiness of uncertainty.

Avoiding Sorrow Would Make Me Lose Myself

I reject escape from grief. Sorrow avoided would become a stone in my heart, stone growing until I became Richard the Lionhearted—ever-militant, with pretenses of superiority, instead of admitting that my crusade is simply rage and the desire to control the wild.

I choose life.

I would lose myself if I did not let go of—and grieve—my old self.

If I do not let go of—and grieve—closeness to my friend, he will continue to rob me of myself.

Moving through Grief into Joy and Power

So I will mourn my losses, face the emptiness that grief pulls close to me, and embrace that wild void. It is life.

Hence, a home worthy of occupancy will come:

I will know my Gods and myself more fully, more than ever give myself over to life that I might serve life, and more than ever allow the feral void to bear abundance and all other blessings to me, if it will.

So mote it be!

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If you resonate with my above sentiments about self-sufficiency and facing emptiness, please check out my event that starts January 16, 2021—Shamanic Rituals that Fill the Spiritual Void: https://outlawbunny.com/2021/11/03/shamanic-rituals-that-fill-the-spiritual-void/

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Absolutely Nothing

There came a point when there was nothing.

Absolutely nothing.

Not the rug pulled out from beneath me
but the floor gone,
nothing holding me from falling
into endless irredeemable deprivation.

There came a point when there was
absolutely nothing except the nothing to which
I had to surrender
if I was to find more power, beauty, and joy than ever,
and if I was not to live in fear.

Terrorized by the possibility of no security,
I had grasped at magic bullets
—the right friend, enough money, the perfect solution,
feeling utter connection to my Gods—
though no substance, image, or Divine elation
could replace diving into the floor-less flawless depths
of my unknowing and the future’s uncertainties.

I had to understand this eerie fall is not necessarily
into the aforementioned abyss of hardship.

There came a point when there was nothing,
absolutely nothing
except the nothing into which I dove—
instead of dangling perilously from
substance, image, or bliss—
because the barren vacuum had become the place I could
know my Gods and myself fully,
give myself over to life that I might serve life,
and allow the void to bear abundance and all other blessings to me, if it will. Hah!

Dear reader, if my above thoughts about spiritual surrender resonate with your belief system, please check out my event that starts January 16, 2021—Shamanic Rituals that Fill the Spiritual Void: https://outlawbunny.com/2021/11/03/shamanic-rituals-that-fill-the-spiritual-void/

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Shamanic Rituals that Fill the Spiritual Void

Overview of upcoming class: Even a spiritually-evolved individual can unknowingly suffer from a spiritual void inside. And they might mistake it for loneliness, fear about finances, or other feelings. Mistaking the source of the problem, a person might turn to the wrong places to fill the awful emptiness, desperation driving them into relationships with inappropriate people, unfair expectations of loved ones, lessons from unkind spiritual teachers, or other destructive behavior.

My class shows you how to change all this. You’ll learn rituals through which you and your Gods can fill that emptiness—only you yourself and Divinity can accomplish it. You’ll find fulfillment, happiness, and power that do not rely on other people or your circumstances. And you’ll become more able to follow your star.

I don’t make these promises lightly, oblivious of the tragedies people face, but am informed by my own traumas. For example, despite fearing for my life when racists made ongoing threats, some of them face-to-face, I found enduring happiness and productivity.

End of overview.

Faerie Shamanism Course:

Shamanic Rituals
that Fill the Spiritual Void

You Can Be Happy Regardless of Circumstances

This seven-week teleseminar begins January 16, 2022.

Enroll by January 12.

What Is a Spiritual Void?

Some individuals feel a spiritual emptiness that cannot be filled by someone’s affection for them or opinion of them. Nor can that emptiness be filled by food, money, possessions, prestige, or anything else except your own efforts and those of the Divine.

Humans are wonderfully tribal. The longing for love, support, and companionship is healthy. As is the instinct to be respected and even treasured. Interdependence empowers us to thrive materially and spiritually. However, being too dependent actually leads to alienation and isolation. Distinguishing between being interdependent and overly dependent can be difficult.

Spiritual emptiness can be mistaken for loneliness, isolation, or other ways we might feel unfulfilled or bereft. So we might turn to the wrong places to fulfill the soul. This can drive someone into
* relationships with inappropriate people
* unfairly high expectations of loved ones
* obsessions about relationships
* addiction
* compulsive work habits
* overwhelming sadness
* hopelessness

The upcoming course helps you avoid that pain and lost opportunities for abundance and happiness. I’ll channel transformative rites especially for that purpose. I will also channel rituals to meet your specific needs if you desire.

Fill the Soul to Create Spiritual Wholeness

In the course, you’ll learn:

* spiritual practices in which Divinity and self fill the emptiness

* practical mysticism that breaks the pattern—perhaps compulsion—of trying to fill the void with people, money, prestige, or anything else that won’t work

* ways to spot the difference between spiritual interdependence and spiritual independence

* how to integrate interdependence with independence

Instead of looking to people or circumstances to fill the soul, you’ll find fulfillment, happiness, and power that do not rely on circumstances. Changing circumstances won’t devastate you emotionally or otherwise.

Fill Your Soul
to Improve All Parts of Your Life

The shamanic practices in these lessons increase all goodness, from prosperity to creativity to sexual satisfaction. Here’s how:

Perhaps you experience mood swings caused by your reactions to other people’s feelings about you.

Or you lose time, energy, and focus because you’re preoccupied with what people think of you.

Or maybe you’re so busy taking care of others that you don’t meet your own needs.

Or perhaps you support everyone else’s goals but don’t pursue your own.

Or people’s ideas, problems, or emotions send you into hopelessness, heartbreak, or another emotional tailspin.

If you suffer from anything I’ve described above, the course will help you stop changing circumstances—including other people’s reactions and lives—from eating up your time, thoughts, and emotions. Nurturing such independence creates ripples throughout your being and your whole life. Centered in the richness of your soul, you are able to:

* Focus on self-care.
* Follow your star—e.g., your dream career.
* Enjoy deep satisfaction from the small wonders of everyday life.
* Create worldly success in many areas of life.
* Trust in your deep self and its wisdom.
* Experience the ecstasy that comes from wholeness.
* Feel immersed in care from the Divine.

Stephen R. Covey said, “People can’t live with change if there’s not a changeless core inside them.”

Finding that core during life’s constant changes is a challenge. I’ll show you how to conquer that roadblock. At the end of the seven weeks, you’ll be able to say with confidence, “I know how to fill my soul so I can live in my true self, with all its power, wisdom, and joy. The internal void provides an opportunity to flourish!”

The Internal Void Is an Opportunity to Flourish

Responding with knee-jerk denial to the idea of having a spiritual void is easy for any of us because society has gone to great lengths to create blindness to this soul wound.

Society wants us emptied of ourselves so we become
* needy enough to be easily influenced
* overly reliant on our oppressors
* and no more than consumers

Even insightful, independent thinkers can unwittingly have a degree of emptiness that hurts them.

I’m not preaching from on high. Though the decades have allowed me to grow lightyears past this problem, I’m not exempt from it. I still recognize—and overcome—patterns in myself.

Before your busy day requires you leave this page, please consider whether this prevalent soul wound should concern you personally. Don’t miss a chance for incredible empowerment.

Psychological therapy can be an insufficient solution (though it can be helpful) because the spiritual void is not psychological, but spiritual and energetic, hence the effectiveness of shamanism at filling the soul.

In this experiential learning process, you are blessed by the Cosmos’s otherworldly healing powers, and connectivity to Divine love and guidance infuses the class meetings.

Fey Witch mysticism is soul healing, solves real-life problems, and otherwise helps you create an amazing life on the spiritual and material planes.

Suited to all levels of experience: accessible to newbies, yet adepts experience depth.

Spiritually-evolved individuals who are independent overall and have a rich inner landscape can still occasionally—or often—find themselves fruitlessly looking to people and circumstances to fill the void discussed here.

Shamanism offers both adepts and beginners connectivity—union with the Cosmos, the Earth, and all Her children. Shamanism also creates an inner union, all aspects of the self weaving together harmoniously. This course provides steps toward a personal wholeness that allows us greater connectivity with everything else. Each step toward wholeness within ourselves allows a more satisfying and beautiful connection with other people.


This course can serve as one of the two electives required before advanced Third Road training.

The class meets by phone. Just dial your phone to attend.

You receive spiritual transmissions in every meeting, which increases your ability to fill the spiritual void.

Enrollment is limited to 16 participants so we can perform ceremonies that can only happen in a small group, allowing old-style oral tradition in which immense headway happens quickly. A small group also allows each participant to receive individualized attention, should they want that support. This tailors a lesson so you receive the exact help you need.

You can phone me if you have a concern that might take too long to address during class or that you prefer to discuss privately.

Starting January 16, we meet Sundays 6:00 to 7:00 pm EST, for seven consecutive weeks. Reserve Sunday March 6, same time, for a makeup session in case I’m unavailable for one of the planned dates.

Full cost—for seven classes, direct spiritual transmissions, and one-on-one private support should you desire—is $200 a month for two months. Your carrier might charge you for the phone calls into the meetings.

Pay securely with PayPal. Choose one of two options:

1) Use the Pay Now button below to pay tuition all at once one, and you’re taken care of!


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If you do not receive an email confirming your payment within a few days, please check your spam filter and spam mailbox. If the email isn’t there, or you want to discuss a payment plan, trade, or scholarship, or you need additional info about the course, please call me. Upon payment, your place is reserved. Refunds unavailable. A few days before our first class, you receive an email with the event phone number and other details.

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Francesca De Grandis 2021

Francesca De Grandis is the best-selling author of “Be a Goddess!” Her work couples Goddess mysticism with practical magic and a down-to-earth philosophy. Raised in a traditional Strega family tradition that has Celtic shamanism in its heritage—the family is originally from France—she practices an ancient European witchcraft that is a form of Fairy shamanism. She has worked professionally as a community shaman for four decades.

The course might be a one-time event, and enrollment is limited. Take advantage of this opportunity now.

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Pagan Pastoral Counseling

Upcoming Faerie Shamanism Course:

Learn Shamanic Counseling

Pastoral Counseling—Pagan Style
Lessons on Witchy Counseling Techniques

This seven-week teleseminar begins October 19, 2021.

Enroll by October 13.

Though I use the word client below for simplicity’s sake, the course is equally useful to professionals and non-professionals. Examples of the latter: someone who wants to increase the solid, down-to earth advice they give, co-counsels in their coven, and/or receives intuitive guidance for friends and family.

What is Shamanic Counseling?

Valid definitions vary widely. Some gifted practitioners supplement a psychologically-based treatment mode with shamanic techniques, while I prefer a shamanically-based treatment mode. Here’s what that consists of, for me:

Shamanic culture and techniques, well-rooted in the shamanic training of the counselor, are the core of my counseling (as opposed to shamanism being an adjunct to other approaches). The upcoming course will reveal the details of my process. But for now:

A client is guided into an experientially mystic session (as opposed to being led solely toward a left-brain understanding of their issues). Mysteries come alive in the sessions. In this experience, the client is blessed by the cosmos’s otherworldly healing powers, and connectivity to Divine love and guidance infuses the moment.

The client’s experience of wholeness, connectivity, and peace re-patterns their cells, nervous system, and DNA, creating miraculous shifts in themselves and their lives. The counselor, as a channel of these benefits, also receives them, including:
* ecstatic wholeness
* a sense of empowerment
* increase of magical, spiritual, and worldly strengths
* worldly success in many areas of life
* respite from life’s sorrows
* immersion in Divine Love
* trust in one’s deep self.

The counselor’s Fey Witch mysticism combines with a down-to-earth, practical wisdom, the combination of which addresses and solves real-life problems and otherwise helps clients create amazing lives on the spiritual and material planes. Head in the sky, feet on the ground.

Inherent is a worldview and system that supports a Pagan ecstatic spirituality, instead of intentionally or accidentally suppressing it. However, a traditional shamanic counselor forgoes Pagan sensibilities, if the client’s beliefs are otherwise.

While this definition skims the surface, it suits our purposes in this post.

Alternative Definitions of Shamanic Counseling

Some psychologists treat clients through a psychologically-based modality supplemented by shamanic rites, as opposed to a modality that is shamanically-based. The psychological focus is legitimate and effective, though I cannot speak to its specific results since it is not my approach.

Other guides base their work on Christian pastoral counseling, supplementing it with witch rites. These folks may not recognize their approach as Christian because Christianity is such a dominant paradigm that many of its aspects are society’s default spiritual positions. Even if you strip the dominant pastoral counseling model of overt Christian beliefs and practices, they’re so ingrained in the model that they inevitably convey Christian beliefs and influence a session’s outcome. There’s nothing wrong with that unless the counselor or client dislike it.

There are yet more definitions. Some guides prefer shamanism that works on an intellectual, instead of experiential, level. Someone else told me she saw shamanic counseling as synonymous with the peer-counseling that happens in 12 step groups. And there are other definitions, but the important thing is:

Whatever shamanic counseling means to you, this course supports and strengthens your approach.

This is not training in psychic-reading. It is far beyond. You learn universal principles that anyone can use to counsel.

This course suits a variety of seekers who want to strengthen what they already know and do:
* People confide in you and, without any training, you know exactly what to say to help. You have no desire to become a professional, but everyone turns to you with their problems, and you want to do your best to support them.
* Or you’re trained in psychology and want to involve spirit more in your work.
* Or you read tarot—with or without training in it—professionally or for free.
* Or you priest(ess) a coven.
* Or you’re a healer of body and/or spirit, using physical, psychic, and/or spiritual means.
* Or you have other reasons this class is relevant.

Come join me. As a professional spiritual counselor, raised by a Sicilian witch who trained me in shamanism from birth, I’ll share what I’ve learned, including techniques only spoken of among pros.

Learn the techniques, strengths, and limits of the witch as spiritual advisor, as well as rituals and meditations to heal friends and clients, and help them follow their star.

We’ll discuss shamanic counseling methods to guide people through life’s everyday challenges, as well as secrets witches use to heal alcoholism, heartbreak, and trauma.


You’ll discover how to:

* Practice traditional shamanic counseling.

* Gain confidence in your innate wisdom and ability to counsel, comfort, and inspire.

* Be the high caliber spiritual guide that people seek out.

* Express your inner Goddess or God.

* Better apply your existing tools to help friends/clients.

* Reap self-fulfillment, joy, spiritual growth, and self-healing by serving others.

* Use shamanic counseling modalities to augment your own counseling approach, whether you work in a shamanically-, psychologically-, or Christian-based mode, or another modality.

Suited to all levels of experience: accessible to newbies, yet adepts experience depth.

This course serves as one of the electives needed before advanced Third Road training.

The class meets by phone. Just dial your phone to attend.

You receive spiritual transmissions in every meeting, which increases the lesson’s power and your ability as a counselor.

Enrollment is limited to 16 participants so we can perform ceremonies that can only happen in a small group, allowing old-style oral tradition in which immense headway happens quickly. A small group also allows each participant to receive individualized attention, should they want that support. This tailors a lesson to you.

I commit to my students. You can phone me, should you have a concern that’d take too long to address during class or that you prefer to discuss privately.

Starting October 19, we meet Tuesdays 6:00 to 7:00 pm EST, for seven consecutive Tuesday, with the exception of Tuesday Nov 23 (Thanksgiving week), which we’ll skip over. Reserve Tuesday Dec 14, same time, for a makeup session in case I’m unavailable for one of the planned dates.

Full cost—for seven classes, direct spiritual transmissions, and one-on-one private support should you desire—is $200 a month for two months. Your carrier might charge you for the phone calls into the meetings.

Pay securely with PayPal. Choose one of two options:

1) Use the Pay Now button below to pay tuition all at once one, and you’re taken care of! Half price if you’ve attended this class before. The drop-down menu has a half-price option.


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If you do not receive an email confirming your payment within a few days, please check your spam filter and spam mailbox. If the email isn’t there, or you want to discuss a payment plan, trade, or scholarship, or you need additional info about the course, please call me. Upon payment, your place is reserved. Refunds unavailable. A few days before the first meeting, you receive event phone number and other details by email.

Wee witchling Francesca De Grandis,   1961

Wee witchling Francesca De Grandis, 1961

Francesca De Grandis is the best-selling author of “Be a Goddess!” Her work couples Goddess mysticism with practical magic and a down-to-earth philosophy. Raised in a traditional Strega family tradition that has Celtic shamanism in its heritage—the family is originally from France—she practices an ancient European witchcraft that is a form of Fairy shamanism. She has worked professionally as a community shaman for four decades.

Lynn Andrews, author of Medicine Woman: “Francesca De Grandis has given us an inspirational bridge between ancient wisdom and our current life.”

Patricia Sullivan, Director of Clinical Services for U.C.S.F. AIDS Health Project: “Training with Francesca has had a significant impact on my work as a therapist, teacher, and administrator working within the HIV epidemic.”

Francesca De Grandis, 2013

Francesca De Grandis, 2013

Cathy: “Francesca, Thanks for the spiritual counseling and support. I’ve gone to many different “spiritual advisors” and gotten lots of junk. Everything I got from you was pure quality and I truly appreciate it. Looking forward to another session, Cathy”

It’s been six years since I’ve taught this, and it may be that long before I teach it again. Take advantage of this opportunity.

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