A Safety Guide for Empaths:
How to Protect Yourself from
Toxic Energy & Emotional Overload
This post is an in-depth guide for empaths. And if you’d like to contribute ideas, add them in the comments below the post. Thank you.
Table of Contents
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Wearing a Fluorite Necklace as a Shield
Where I Learned
that Fluorite Necklaces Protect Empaths
Protection for Empaths Is Important
Proof that Fluorite Necklaces Protect Empaths
Sensitivity Is a Gift from the Divine
More Situations That Are Hard for Empaths
Environments that Are Stressful for Everyone
Healthy Work Environments that Can Cause Overload
Combining Magical and Worldly Boundaries
More about the Complexity of Boundaries
Internalizing Someone Else’s Energy to Heal Them
Why I Wear a Fluorite Necklace Every Day
Fluorite’s Energy Is Sweet and Harmonious
Fluorite Does Not Shut Down All My Empathy
Where to Buy Your Fluorite Necklace
Your Link and Coupon Code for a 20% Discount!
Unboxing My Otter Spirit Package
What Is An Empath?
An empath is an individual who experiences within themself someone else’s emotions—sadness, anger, joy, etc.,—and other energies. Examples of other energies are physical pain, spiritual openness to life’s beauty, and the lovely physical rush that finishing an important project brings.
An empath is also called a sensitive. Sensitivity is a wonderful ability. More about the upsides of empathic power momentarily. But first:
The Challenges of an Empath
Sometimes, empaths are burdened by other people’s energy. Experiencing someone else’s pain or anger can be too much. I’ll use anger as an example:
An angry person in the presence of an unprotected empath might become inexplicably calm, while the empath finds themself suddenly furious for no apparent reason. The empath has taken on the other person’s anger.
Empaths can become overwhelmed in large crowds or near someone who’s in crisis. Even an interaction on the phone might flood an empath with emotions and other energy.
Wearing a Fluorite Necklace as a Shield
A fluorite necklace protects empaths by shutting down the empathy, to a more comfortable degree.
It can’t be a fluorite pendant. Fluorite beads must be strung close together, all around the neck. Think of a strand of pearls, with no space between them, except for a knot’s worth. Use chips, beautiful carved fluorite, or any other fluorite beads.
To cleanse the necklace’s energy, put it in the freezer for fifteen minutes.
Where I Learned
that Fluorite Necklaces Protect Empaths
Decades ago, my friend Uma channeled a lot of the above material about empaths, fluorite, and necklaces. I added my theories. For example, I contributed the idea of taking on someone else’s energy and physical experiences as opposed to only their emotions. I also changed the wording somewhat.
Uma’s material entered common lore, without being attributed to her. This is unfortunate. Uma owned a San Francisco occult shop called Tools of Magic. She channeled a great deal of remarkable magic that was passed down. Her shop was a school, haven, and launching pad for many Pagans. She cleared the path for today’s Paganism. Uma, after all you accomplished, rest in peace.
Attribution Makes Magic Work
Taking other people’s work without their permission is oppression. Power to the people means individuals have the right to decide what is done with the fruits of their labor. This includes their ideas.
Honoring sources, on the other hand, makes magic work. I honor my sources by passing on material only with permission and attributing the source. My fluorite necklace works. Yaya!
If you would like to share this post’s material, in part or in whole, I’d love you to share the link to this essay (instead of copy and pasting the material). That honors my decades of developing the article’s comprehensive theories on empaths. If you want to share this material in another way, please contact me, so we can discuss it. Thank you!
Protection for Empaths Is Important
The majority of people attracted to my work are empaths. I’ve given all the above information to my students for decades. It is even more important lately.
Luckily, I’ve had more thoughts on it. Plus, I have more resources for you. So let’s go:
Proof that Fluorite Necklaces Protect Empaths
One of the most important things I can tell you in this blog is to wear a fluorite necklace. So I will talk about it a lot.
I trust anecdotal evidence. A large number of my students and I saw significant improvements in our quality of life after we began consistently wearing fluorite necklaces.
Sensitivity Is a Gift from the Divine
Sensitivity is beautiful. But the trait is often condemned. For example, the remark You’re so sensitive is usually an insult.
The phrase has been used repeatedly to shame sensitives for a trait they deserve to take pride in.
Generally speaking, too much sensitivity does not exist. The idea of it, exceptions aside, is almost always oppressive and hurts not only empaths but also everyone else. I can’t imagine a situation in which You’re so sensitive is an accurate description or useful response. For example, let’s say someone’s reaction is disproportionate to the situation at hand. Perhaps they are subconsciously responding to a traumatic situation in their past. They are having an appropriate response to previous trauma, need healing, and You’re so sensitive will only shame them and interfere with healing. Or let’s say someone intentionally overreacts so they have a justification to lash out. (This intention might be subconscious.) You’re so sensitive won’t stop the abuse.
An Affirmation for Empaths:
Sensitivity is a gift from the Divine.
Empathy is wise, practical, and powerful.
I am proud of being so sensitive.
Your sensitivity is a gift to you and those around you. Some empaths experience the following positive aspects of sensitivity:
Sensing what other people feel makes someone more likely to be compassionate.
Empaths are aware of what’s beneath the surface. So they can boost a person’s confidence by praising them for wonderful traits that are not obvious. Sensing more than someone’s facade also increases awareness of danger and quickens responses to people’s needs.
Unfortunately, most empaths have been penalized for sensitivity. For one thing, they are subjected to society’s opinion that sensitivity is a foolish, trifling women’s delusion. So it is easy to invalidate or repress your ability. Then, you might not have the experiences in my above examples. For help drawing on your otherworldly awareness, contact me for spiritual counseling, Pagan style. I also call this Shamanic counseling, pastoral counseling, or a psychic reading because all these terms are accurate.
Empathy is wise, practical, powerful, and not gender specific. I only gave two examples of its importance. There are many more. I won’t go into them here because this blog focuses on protecting empaths. However, when we are protected, we can use our empathy better.
An Abundance of Emotions
If you are a sensitive, experiencing someone else’s abundance of emotions can be too intense. Their ability to feel deeply is wonderful. I want to be around people like that. They’re delightful!
I’m like them. I have an abundance of my own feelings. Theirs on top of mine can be too much to feel sometimes. So I shield myself as an empath.
Someone’s abundance of feelings might be happy ones—joy, excitement, celebration, connectivity, etc. Or it might consist of disparate emotions that range from anger to joy, and from grief to celebration. In either case, being around that individual can be overwhelming and otherwise distressing for an empath. The same goes for a group’s range of emotions, even happy ones.
As a talisman, the necklace shields your empathy so you stop experiencing so much of what other people are going through. I choose to surround myself with people who feel deeply, so I wear my necklace.
More Situations That Are Hard for Empaths
Large Gatherings
A large gathering like a birthday party, business conference, or sci-fi convention can devastate an empath, leaving them befuddled and wondering why, until they learn that they are suffering from an emotional and energy overload.
Environments that Are Stressful for Everyone
Some places are particularly stressful for anyone. For example, fear, anxiety, hope, and despair fill doctors’ offices and courthouses. So much energetic uproar can be a nasty experience for a sensitive.
Times of national crises can also hit empaths hard. In the same vein, empaths might feel the ongoing turmoil of disenfranchised groups.
A situation doesn’t have to be all bad to be stressful. Doctors’ offices are places of healing. Political demonstrations can be scary, even when all goes well.
Toxic Environments
The insane holiday dinner, the badgering employer, … you get the idea.
Healthy Work Environments that Can Cause Overload
Some good, fulfilling jobs lend themselves to emotional and energy overload. Think of a counselor, psychic healer, or taxi driver. If you have this sort of a job, shield yourself at work.
Wearing your fluorite necklace in the situations listed above can make all the difference.
Empaths Need Boundaries
Boundaries can be complex and confusing for anyone. Empaths might have additional concerns.
For one, empathy helps us have compassion. There’s a prevalent misconception that boundaries cannot go hand-in-hand with compassion.
No matter how much you care about a person, you are not obliged to take responsibility for their feelings. For example, let’s say someone near you is angry but is suppressing it or otherwise not taking responsibility for it. And you suddenly feel inexplicably furious. If you suspect you have internalized this person’s rage, remind yourself it’s not your responsibility to play it out for them by feeling it, verbalizing it, or otherwise acting on it.
And wear your necklace the next time you’re around them.
Or wear it all the time if you tend to play out other people’s feelings.
Doing work that someone else should tend to is not compassionate. It devalues the person’s ability to step up to the plate and blocks an opportunity for them to do so.
Effective Boundaries
Boundaries are not always statements. For an empath, the necklace makes a boundary for you. You don’t always need to say anything.
The following is oversimplified, but bear with me. Most of the time, when someone states a boundary, they’re not making the boundary. They’re:
making demands that will probably not be met, instead of taking care of themselves
grimly committing to a course of action that they don’t follow
isolating
continuing or beginning a situation that nurtures their resentments
drawing an unnecessary line in the sand that provokes retaliation
or otherwise hurting themselves and the person with whom they are speaking.
Any of that can happen without the speaker’s awareness.
Most of the time, a boundary is an action. It is going about your life, taking care of yourself, and treating the other person(s) involved gently, kindly, courteously, supportively—and serenely, instead of grinding your teeth.
This ends the oversimplification.
If boundaries elude you, or you can’t make them kindly, book a psychic reading with me.
Boundaries and compassion go hand-in-hand. Yes, sometimes it’s the compassion of a sword. But most of the time, no.
Combining Magical and Worldly Boundaries
Responsibility for my well-being requires metaphysical means combined with actions on the worldly plane. So I combine a fluorite necklace with mundane boundaries.
More about the Complexity of Boundaries
Boundaries are complex in a world filled with people who don’t take full responsibility for their ideas, emotions, and actions, and expect others to do the intellectual, emotional, and physical work that keeps things afloat.
Their expectations might be subconscious. And no one can be perfect about taking responsibility for their wrongs. Still, do not let anyone thrust their blame, shame, or anything else they should own onto you. If you need help with this, Shamanic counseling guides you through the rocky, complex waters of boundaries.
Internalizing Someone Else’s Energy
to Heal Them
The Gods Give You a Gift and a Choice,
Not a Mandate
I imagine some empaths heal people by playing out their feelings. Doing that is a choice, not a mandate.
Providing that service without hurting oneself or the client requires more abilities than empathy. Safety also probably requires training, some of which would be quite specific.
Empathy is a valuable tool for me during a psychic reading. For one thing, it shows me something of what my client is experiencing. But I don’t cling to my client’s emotions, physical sensations, and other energies that I’m feeling from them. In other words, I don’t play it out for them; I feel it long enough for it to inform the reading and then let it pass.
Why I Wear a Fluorite Necklace Every Day
I wear a fluorite necklace all day, almost every day. Here’s one reason:
The world is filled with people. People are filled with emotions. That’s a lot of emotions I might be picking up, even when I’m alone in my apartment.
When I go out on walks, the same holds true, if not truer.
Does my empathy work when I’m asleep at night? Who knows?! I want pleasant dreams so I wear my necklace to bed.
Fluorite’s Energy Is Sweet and Harmonious
Fluorite is an easy gem to wear: Its energy is gentle and smooth, like a summer brook rippling through Christopher Robin’s woods. So you probably won’t need to make any adjustments to wearing fluorite.
Many gemstones make me feel terrible. For example, some have a harsh rapid vibration that irritates my nervous system. Finding a gemstone that I can wear every day like fluorite is remarkable. Only ten gems suit me that much. I own a lot of them, LOL.
The first year or so that I wore the necklace, I rarely took it off. The exception was when I did a psychic reading for someone other than myself, I had to remove the necklace. For one thing, part of my work involves sharing with my clients what my otherworldly senses perceive about them. Empathy is one of those senses.
Eventually, I was able to keep the necklace on during a session and still sense what I needed, to do my best for my client.
I’ve worn fluorite necklaces for decades. So I might have forgotten needing to take it off more often at first. In any case, no big adjustments were necessary.
Fluorite Does Not Shut Down All My Empathy
I still feel empathy when I wear fluorite. Speaking of memory, I wonder if I still felt empathy when I was first started wearing the fluorite. I suspect it is a permeable ward so it lets in what you need.
Why I Own Fluorite Bracelets
I suggest starting with a necklace and eventually trying a bracelet.
A fluorite bracelet became an effective shield for me, only after I’d worn a necklace for years.
Bracelets help me wear fluorite every day by giving me fashion options. Don’t let anyone tell you that fashion is shallow. Personal adornment is sacred.
Everyone’s different. Perhaps a bracelet will work for you right away. I can only tell you what worked for me. Maybe use your intuition to see what suits you.
Holiday Stress and Empaths
How to Stay Sane during the Holidays if You’re a Sensitive
Holidays can be difficult for anyone, let alone empaths. Crises increase during the holidays. Empaths can pick up that traumatic energy.
Even if there’s no trauma, energy is flying around and emotions are going every which way. Overwhelming!
Fall and winter holidays are not the only potentially stressful ones. Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, any holiday can cause a riot.
Make the holidays easier. Buy a fluorite necklace as an early holiday gift for yourself. You’ll be in better shape for your loved ones.
Where to Buy Your Fluorite Necklace
This post’s photographs show a lovely necklace and bracelet from Otter Spirit.
I view fluorite jewelry as working tools for a sensitive soul. I like Otter Spirit’s simple designs because they suit most outfits. Sacred artifacts can be simple and powerful.
I make talisman necklaces and wear one of them almost every day. They tend to be elaborate. Simple fluorite jewelry is likely to look nice with them. Ditto with an elaborate blouse.
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Otter Spirit
I’d been wanting to finally post this essay.
Then Otter Spirit asked for a collaboration. It felt so right! I don’t usually accept offers of magical tools in exchange for writing about them. For one thing, the offers tend to seem sleazy. But Otter Spirit was different.
Andrada, Otter Spirit’s PR Associate who contacted me, demonstrated sincere warmth. She was also respectful without fawning and promptly addressed my concerns without equivocation.
I went to their site and, lo, they had fluorite necklaces. Synchronicity! It was guidance to post this piece.
The easy, good energy when working with Andrada bodes well for you as a customer.
Unboxing My Otter Spirit Package
I opened the shipping box to see beautiful gift boxes. Inside each was a pouch containing a piece of jewelry. There was a lovely fluorite necklace and bracelet.
Pretty packaging makes me feel like the sender is treating me like a person instead of a sale. This is a seller who will care about you.
That personal connection is important. I want sacred artifacts from a seller who respects both mystical tools and the buyer.
The Fairy Gods Adore You
You are a child of ancient Gods. They think you are wonderful, exactly as you are. They want you to be good to yourself. Take care of you now.
